"As long as our orientation is toward perfection or success, we
will never learn about unconditional friendship with ourselves, nor will we find
compassion."
"Hope and fear come from feeling that we lack something; they come
from a sense of poverty. We can't simply relax with ourselves. We hold on to
hope, and hope robs us of the present moment. We feel that someone else knows
what is going on, but that there is something missing in us, and therefore
something is lacking in our world."
"As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel
that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we
suffer from resolution. We don't deserve resolution; we deserve something better
than that. We deserve our birthright, which is the middle way, an open state of
mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity."
"As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel
that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we
suffer from resolution. We don't deserve resolution; we deserve something better
than that. We deserve our birthright, which is the middle way, an open state of
mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity."
"When things are shaky and nothing is working, we might realize
that we are on the verge of something. We might realize that this is a very
vulnerable and tender place, and that tenderness can go either way. We can shut
down and feel resentful or we can touch in on that throbbing quality."
"A further sign of health is that we don't become undone by fear
and trembling, but we take it as a message that it's time to stop struggling and
look directly at what's threatening us."
"Rather than letting our negativity get the better of us, we could
acknowledge that right now we feel like a piece of shit and not be squeamish
about taking a good look."
"The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental
harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and
the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently."
"The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people
is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane
enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at
ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's
eyes."
"This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for
complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your
philosophy is simple kindness."