"When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you
don't blame the
lettuce. You look for reasons it is not
doing well. It may need fertilizer,
or more water, or
less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have
problems with our friends or family, we blame the other
person. But if
we know how to take care of them, they will
grow well, like the lettuce.
Blaming has no positive
effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using
reason
and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no
reasoning, no
argument, just understanding. If you
understand, and you show that you
understand, you can
love, and the situation will
change."
~Thich
Nhat Hanh
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